Let me ask this - saying that a housekeep/nanny could have saved a marriage is suggesting that deeper things lie. It's like putting a band aid on a hole in a dam when there are cracks all over.
Not at all.
No one is saying that a nanny or housekeeper could save every marriage.
But when troubles are still relatively small and new, a housekeeper or nanny can give a couple a bit of breathing room and emotional energy to repair the cracks.
People who are stressed and tired are almost never at their best. Chronic stress and exhaustion can add more and more cracks and widen the existing cracks. Removing the stress can prevent that, and even reverse it.
Some marriages on here have much deeper problems. Others have issues that started small and could probably have been fixed while they were still small if the partners had had more energy.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
