can honestly say that the reason my marriage broke down and failed was because in my wife's mind I did not do enough for her and for our children and at time I did let her down this is true I have been out this evening with my W and we ended up having a very long conversation and it ultimately comes down to a build up of resentment and she does not feel she can trust me ever again so will not work on repairing anything she now wants to live in separate houses does not believe she can ever trust men again. She said the only two men in her life have both let her down her father and then me and she sees living in separate houses as the way she might end up happy again, she said that if she does not end up happy then she is in no worse position then she is right now as right
You did not do enough for her and the children. Did she give you specifics of what wasn't enough, and had she ever discussed this in past times...... or is that all she said? How in the world does 'you did not do enough' tie into not trusting you, or any man....ever again? There has to be more to it, or else she is feeding you a bunch of b.s.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
