Toi- You don't have to give up unless that's what you want. It doesn't matter what W is saying right now. Her feelings are based on the current situation. Change the situation and you can change her feelings.
For the record, you've never seen a spouse act more determined to get out of a marriage than mine was. He "didn't love me," I "wasn't his family anymore," and he "wouldn't fix our problems even if he could" because he didn't want me at all. So I stopped fighting, signed his divorce papers, sent him off with love and well wishes, and then packed up our kids and left the state. Guess who's wanted me back every since I left and showed him I was happy without him??
