Gordie: Pulling it all together 2

[Gordie]

***I found you. Gordie.***

Thank you! You are a guardian angel.

***I see you are still on WAW's emotional roller coaster.***

Yes, but I have been better after the advice Rose, Cali and Roist gave.

***She has been unwavering in where your R is headed from what I read. Tell me if I am wrong. You have little choice but to accept it for now since you have already agreed to the S. You are seen as an obstacle to her fantasy coming true.***

Yes, all of that is true. The only thing W is wavering on is if she wants a S or a D. Like ForGump's W, she's also not being realistic about money because there isn't enough to support her fantasy but she doesn't care. She just wants to get the settlement done and figure life out from there.

***I agree with the advise that you need not accept her choices about OM. You can't do anything about them, but accept them? No, I don't think so. ***

What do you mean by not accepting them? No, I won't do a three way sexual R if that's what you are talking about.

***From what I read, you spend too much time dwelling on her and too little time dwelling on fixing/strengthening Gordie.***

You are right and this will be one thing that will be easier when we are not living together.

***I think it is great that you spend time with your kids. Perhaps you should take them on a trip and build those relationships which also frees WAW to be with OM or whatever else she wants to do. Give the fire of her dream some oxygen so that it can burn good and hot.***

I actually already do these trips with the kids without my W, have been for a few years now. We take vacations with W too.

***She seems hell bent on flaming your marriage. While you need to be respectful, I do not believe you need to be luvy duvy.***

I'm working on this. Rose's friendly neighbor and Hawho houseguest ideas have been helpful. Flaming the M? For now, yes. After her fantasy dies? I guess than she will need to decide where she goes from there and I will too.

***I certainly would not have sex with her at this point. However, my personal preference is to avoid STD's at all cost. As you dig deeper into Gordie, you will find there is more than enough to keep you busy. Things that need real work. Your R's with your kids are gonna need a bunch of quality time. That means quantity as well. I hope to see you in a peaceful place soon.***

Thank you for your wisdom and continuing support.