So I have made this same mistake. Twice. When I attempted to add an event from my email to my calendar on my iPhone, it invited everyone in a group. I honestly don't know how it happened. People, even waywards, do make mistakes.

So was that "narcissistic abuse?" I honestly don't even know what that means. Inconsiderate of her? Perhaps. But I don't think it helps you to view it that way, as villainizing the wayward only adds to your own sting. Blaming them for our own hurt also empowers them further hurt us and thus disempowers us. No more of that. Take your power back!

Let her do and say as she will--you can't control her--but you can decide how much you let it affect you moving forward.

Cheesy, I am glad to hear that you like who you are becoming and enjoy time with your chosen family. That is wonderful news. I think this is how detachment starts. It's those first step of focusing on ourselves, on other Rs, and allowing ourselves to put them on the back burner for a bit. And then you can increase the time she sits back, longer and longer .... It will get better in time.

Hugs,
Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela