Leaving your grieving wife to deal alone with a toddler with developmental delays and a baby is being loving how?

This is taking weight off her shoulders how?

Is she even able to sleep through the night, or are the kids waking her up?

I would have considered this a horrible betrayal.

Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16