If it seems like things are spinning too fast, you can get off the ride and sit one out.
Though you might not realize it, you HAVE ALL THE TIME IN THE WORLD.
Even if the D goes through, there will be time.
You will continue to mend things, talk, lighten up, share, learn and grow.
Don't panic.
This is all about learning a better way.
Believe me, I'm speaking from experience. My H did porn for a living and chased buxom coeds around the country while separated from me -- talk about indignity!
But he GOT WHAT HE WANTED and found it didn't satisfy him the way my cuddling, affection, understanding and loyalty do. He really misses me. He just doesn't know his way home.
You will find strength -- cuz you ARE strong. You will find peace -- cuz it's ALWAYS WAITING for us.
Good work on thought-stopping, good work on journalling, good work on figuring out what works.
You're a gem!
I'm so sorry things are hard for you, and there is fear.
But "When you're going through Hell, keep going!" said Winston Churchill -- and it's still true.
