What does the agreement say with regards to custody?
The most stable system for the kids is probably to stick with your custody schedule and have each of you be responsible for finding child care as needed during your time.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16