D said to me today that as she can understand me doing NC with H, she wants me to contact him if he doesn't, come March when it will be a year since BD.
She wants me to ask what his intentions are as I am on edge and GD is so upset all the time. She is very angry and wets herself since he left. She will be five in April.
D wants me to push him to make his mind up before GD birthday (which I fully understand) Am I being harsh by saying no I won't?
D is the mother of GD?
I don't think you're being harsh. She's a parent. If she has an issue with your H's behavior with regards to her daughter, she can talk to your H herself.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
