Help - Setting Boundaries, WW in EA - Thread #3

[Woke_Up]

Monday - got back from work, straight into grief from WW about bedrooms, telling me that my room (MBR) was going to be the spare room, anyone could go in there and all the junk was going in there, and her room was hers and private, etc.

Later I said I was going out, she asked why, so I vented a bit, told her I was sick of getting home from work and being treated like I was the one having the affair and being punished. She actually apologised to me later. She sent me a song to listen to while I was out in the garden walking to calm me down.

Tuesday - last day at work, had leaving drinks with the team, got home late so didn't see WW at all.

Today, was fine most of the day, W gave me a random hug at one point, but we got into an argument later, and I said some stupid things. It was about my parenting style, and W was spewing at me, and unfortunately I said I didn't want D to be like her, or me. That was a stupid thing to say. I was focused on the way she was raging, and that was what I meant, but it was a pretty awful thing to say, and W rightly got mad at me. I'm mad at myself.

Anyway, I got some home truths from W, and TBH, some of them were fair - I come across as patronising, condescending, always want to be right.

I try to be calm while she rages, but that doesn't work for her, she feels I am coming across as passive aggressive and condescending.

I will take note and work on this. Even though it was in an argument, it is good for me to see how I am coming across, and can work on 180'ing this.

I did go into W's room and apologised to her and made it clear that I did like her (she had taken my comments as meaning I didn't like who she was as a person).

I am focusing on the job hunt at the moment, I have a pretty solid lead for my next contract - I am invited back for a 2nd interview on Friday, and I am the only candidate being invited back - it is supposed to be an informal interview to meet some other team members, so I am feeling positive about that. One of the other opportunities hasn't materialised, at least not in the right way - they offered a fixed term contract rather than a day rate limited company contract, which doesn't work for me. I also had another call about a potential contract - a place that offered me a job 18 months ago - it's not ideal, so I am concentrating on option 1 at the moment, but if that doesn't happen then this will be a fall back.

Just coming on here calms me down.

I think I will go for the coaching once I get the next contract in the bag.