I'm going to rehash what Kaizen said. Solid advice.
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one difficulty i have with this DR and DB in general, is that I was the one who first had an emotional affair, and acted mean to my ex wife that pushed her away. so i was the one who treated her poorly first. and now she is the one that left.
does that change the DR and DB dynamic? do i still treat her as a WW when i was the one that was WW first? and i thought that talking about our relationship was good, so we could kind of work through any roadblocks to being together in the future?
At this point, any looking to the future should only concern yourself. As has been said on here, she is on her own road now as evident by her statement - and her road doesn't have room for you, unfortunately. What does this mean for you? Well, it means that you must travel your own road. Sure, you can leave room for her if you so choose at a later point in time, but remember that this is your road, not hers. If she decides to join you, she will, but don't hold a place for her in hopes that she will come back.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
