DO NOT make any changes to yourself with the idea of winning your wife back. That isn't what working on yourself if all about. That's a very dangerous trap.
You make your changes for your own self, not in the hopes of her saying "look at what I'm missing." If you change for another and it doesn't work out, then you'll be left with much resentment - towards her and YOU. No other way around it.
Not only this, but if you change 'for her', then it wont stick. Remember all of the times you fought with her and said "Ill do X better" and then 3 weeks later it was back to the same?
As for my opinion on your question I dont see how pursuing her will possibly work in your favor. You said youve already asked her out several times to no avail. Why would continuing to do the same thing yield different results?
