My dad and step mom are saying to sweep her off her feet with romance. The advice at this website seems centered on pulling back from her.
You are going to get varying opinions on this. Remember, only you know your wife and how she'll respond. What works for some definitely does not for others. Mine, for example, ran when I tried the DB techniques...but then again, her mind is much, much different than others.
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My mom says to work on me and try to make my wife jealous, by making myself more attractive, which is more in line with what this site says, I believe, which is to make myself a person only an idiot wouldn't want back.
Solid advice. However, it must come with a word of warning - DO NOT make any changes to yourself with the idea of winning your wife back. That isn't what working on yourself if all about. That's a very dangerous trap.
You make your changes for your own self, not in the hopes of her saying "look at what I'm missing." If you change for another and it doesn't work out, then you'll be left with much resentment - towards her and YOU. No other way around it.
As have been said many times on here - you are on your own path now. You can make sure it has room for her, but that's just it. You walk it yourself, and you must own it yourself. Unfortunately, your wife is on her own path - and like all of the rest of us, that path has room for them only.
I wish that you weren't here and going through this sucktastic thing. I truly do. No one deserves this unless they were a total sh*thead. This place is great. Vent all you need, sir.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
