Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #7]

[Gordie]

***I gave her the signed affidavit saying I got a copy of the petition. She's been cordial but distant. I think I'm being distant too, but friendly.***

Distant but friendly...that's a good one...it seems like I can only do distant/cold and friendly/warm...ugh...

***For reasons I don't want to explain here, I'll be the one to move out after the divorce.***

Sadly, I'm in the same boat...

***Suddenly it feels like my clock is ticking. So I looked at a few places today, and unexpectedly found a house that I really liked. So much so that I wished I could buy it. I put in an application to rent.***

I thought you were going to have to sell the house and everyone moves out?

***If that house works out, I could move there as early as mid-Feb. But I'll want a little time to get the house set up before bringing kids there. So early March is probably more likely. Will talk to our kids after I definitely have a place to move to.***

So you are going to wait longer to tell them, when you have the custody details worked out?

***The excitement of setting my new house buoyed my spirits at times.***

That's great!

***At other times, I felt like I had the flu.***

Physically, emotionally or both? Feel better.

***I've been thinking forever about how we're going to tell our kids about the divorce. I think my older one (jr. high) will be sad but OK. The younger one (elementary school age) will be bewildered and sad.***

If you have pointers for me, let me know. I too have a D soundtrack in my head so sad and funny at the same time. It's quite an eclectic group of songs, but the one on repeat is..."I can't make you love me, if you don't; I can't make your heart feel, something it won't..."