Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 8

[PsySara]

Thanks FG, I think WH is slowly but surely having a light bulb moment. I keep DBing and working on me and he sees the changes. If he walks away now I can feel assured he is the fool.

I am still dressing sexy all the time at home, soaking up kid time and going to the gym. WH continues to pursue, he texts me at work, flirts while at home and has started saying ILY. I noticed that MWD has just released a new book about healing from infidelity. It's written in stages so I think I will skip to the point where the affair is over and how to go from there. I still have moments where my mind drifts to the affair and I quickly lock down that rumination and focus on NOW. I remind myself of his behavior NOW, his affection NOW, his re-engaging with his family NOW. That is my biggest challenge. I have been confronting myself when I start to ruminate, "Sara, what are getting out of this? Is this helping you achieve your goal? Is this going to serve your purpose?"

Cheeseless tunnels and all of that. Now, with that said, I do need to eventually conquer the monster of his affair. I need to see remorse. But that will likely take a long time and come in trickles and not an epiphany.