Wife left 4 months ago and said 'I will be back when you get your crap together'. (Her and a new found best friend left at the same time, and stayed together for 2 weeks at friends moms house. I feel the friend convinced her to leave bc misery loves company.)
Were you aware your W was unhappy enough that a friend could influence her to leave you? Unfortunately, female "friends" can have a lot of negative influence, especially if there exists some issues in the MR......and/or the friend is S/D from her H.
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Grandmothers house is next to her parents, who have encouraged her to leave and provided her with all financial assistance. Essentially enabling this type of behavior.
Why did they have a problem with you?
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In person, her attitude is totally different, she is nice and almost timid, like she regrets her decision. I feel she has limited face to face encounters for this reason. She states that she has to go thru with divorce to prove she is serious this time.
This ^^^^^^ is why I question those who are influencing her. Unless she feels intimidated when face to face with you.....why a different tone? Does she have her supporters with her when face to face? I'll bet that makes a difference.
She has been cold and resentful. What about rage?
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When I do offer to do things to help with kids, wife says 'you never wanted to do that before'.
She will probably speak in absolutes. You "always", you "never", etc.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
