A stronger me for whatever the future holds

[PacLove]

Yeah each sich is different - if I were to do things over, I would change many things but I do agree with MWD that eventually most A's die a natural death - and if one is willing to wait and show an open door than it paves the path for R. She does call out though that if you personally can't wait, that's fine - but you need to be OK and prepared for the outcome that may ensue with firmer boundaries which may not always lead to R. So the choice becomes whether you want to Fight for your M and be patient vs. Accepting either outcome and moving on.

While most of this forum is biased to fixing ourselves, I do believe most of us come here initially wanting to save our M.