Logic verses Emotions, Aiming for Logic

[dfb]

Why don't you go ahead and estimate the taxes, pay them and file an extension? It might take some weight off.

[psluke]

I suggested that and he specifically doesn't want to do that, not sure why. Maybe so he doesn't have to deal with me any after the D is final?

[dfb]

I suggested that and he specifically doesn't want to do that, not sure why. Maybe so he doesn't have to deal with me any after the D is final?

That is possible, but only he'd know. You don't have to use the whole 4 month extension, but it might make it easier if you just allow yourself another week or so to get them done.

[psluke]

I agree my thinking exactly as he has the major project at work and we have the settlement to get worked out all in two weeks!

Here is his response.

I'd really rather not file an extention if it can be avoided.

That is all he said, no idea why or anything like that with it. His e-mails were very short this morning.

[psluke]

It wouldn't be any problem at all for me to get mine filed on time if I file separate. But I think if we do that he will end up owing a bunch of money.

I feel I am trying to help him out and I'm not getting any cooperation.

[psluke]

I finally told him I'm not comfortable filing the taxes without seeing the paperwork.

He said he was at a loss! That basically I was saying I didn't trust him.

I had to laugh just a bit. I said well I would say you wouldn't cheat on your taxes, I would also have said you wouldn't have an affair or divorce me so I'm just trying to tell you where I am at.

[psluke]

I am absolutely a wreck emotionally today.

My hands are shaking and I can't think straight at all.

I want to start a fight with CHL so bad and am really struggling to keep communication clear and NOT let my emotions dictate the interactions.

I am at least trying to dig into my crazymaking feelings.

It appears I am feeling hurt and ignored. He wants to dump the taxes on me but he has time to go to J's house but not come to our house.

[psluke]

Ok,

If I do my taxes separately I think he will owe a bunch of money.

After G told me he was at the sl*ts house last Wednesday evening I am tempted to do just that and let him just deal with his own mess.

[psluke]

Maybe that is what I should do. After all the D will be final in two weeks.

This isn't like a fence sitting WAS he is through with me and our marriage so why should I help him out?

Still desperately hoping he will change his mind?

Would guess not a chance in H*ll since he is still spending most of his free time with J.

[dfb]

Pam -

Go ahead and do your own taxes. I don't know what all is going on - we aren't in on your conversations except what you post (word for word). But if he isn't giving you his paperwork, and you have your own ready to go and he's not coming over to help - just do yours and let him worry about his.

Don't let yourself get too emotional about things if you can help it. Think of CHL as dead weight that you need to cut loose. The R with him is dragging you completely down. Hopefully you will feel free once the D is over - whether or not you two get back together in the future.