I'm not surprised as there is a similar story in DR along the same lines. Every situation is different and my approach is to learn from the books and people here and then do my best to apply it to me. Heck, even the stories here are heavily edited so everything need to be taken with a grain of salt or a truckload. That's also why we need support IRL with people we know and trust.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving