Cadet, thanks for the advice.

I have started reading DR, on pg 60. I have backed off on the talks, only about kids. Just having a really hard time understanding her actions. She went from madly in love to filing for divorce, almost overnight. She is in the mindset that now that our whole relationship was terrible and make the comment 'you hurt me,you can't heal me'. I keep replaying our relationship in my head to see if there is any merit to her thinking. Is this just typical behavior for a WAW?