The Never Ending Rabbit Hole

[ForGump]

So why do I share all this? I'm not sure. It just felt right. And to highlight that history has a way of repeating itself.

So true. I bet most people here, if they looked at their wayward or MLC spouses' families, would find some template for their current behavior. Mine is emulating her mother's behavior down to the year (age). It's almost as if an alarm clock was set for a particular age, and then the troubles begin ... (well, I recognize that it was stewing long before...)

[Gordie]

So, this weekend was our hand-off weekend. She was quite the chatty cathy. Not sure where that came from, but joking, smiling, etc. And, she made sure to ask about my Mom and said that she was praying for her.

I know, just being nice. I'm tired of this fake bullshite. Really am. She's such a devious snake. Ugh.

How much does your XW's interactions still affect your moods/emotions?

[Dawgs]

Hi Blu! Thank you for stopping by!

I just want to say thank you. I'm so sorry for your loss. I never know what to say in times like that, but please accept my condolences. And thank you for sharing something that is so obviously painful for you.

I hope that you can make the best of your time with your mom and not let your issues with W take away from that. Because you won't be able to fix that later. This time is precious and if it's a year or a few months left, you can still show her your love. That will last forever.

True. Thank you.

[Dawgs]

Regarding terminal illness, there's an inspiring video (in my opinion) on YouTube. Search "Randy Pausch last lecture."

Thank you, Doodler. I will check that out tonight.

[Dawgs]

Gump,

I will agree with that, too. Too many similarities.

[Dawgs]

Hi Gordie!

How much does your XW's interactions still affect your moods/emotions?

Actually, almost nil. Honestly, I don't care what she does anymore. However, it does bother me when her crap affects the kids. I am well past the realization stage. But, I won't say that at times it does still pull at the strings, because it does. And probably in some form, it always will. That's human nature.

One thing that I absolutely detest is fakeness, especially to my face. Just tell me like it is and I'll be much better off.

[Cristy]

Hello Jeep,

I have to tell you how truly sorry I am to hear about your mom.

Please lean on us and know that you and your family are in our hearts and prayers.

Sincerely,

Cristy

Resource Coordinator
The Divorce Busting Center
303-444-7004

[Dawgs]

Hi Cristy!

Thank you for the kind words. It's no wonder that I love this place so much.

It's been tough. And it's getting tougher. I feel like I'm down to one knee again. All the while this is going on, the ex is starting up again. Ugh. It is what it is, I guess. I'm afraid that I may play by the ex's rules and send some downrange, which would end up hurting me in the long run. Must continue to use my mouth filter. I do not like sitting idly by absorbing all her and her family's incoming.

[Gordie]

Starting up again? Terrible.

[Dawgs]

Starting up again? Terrible.

Hey, Gordie.

Yeah, this latest round from her family - they are telling anyone/everyone who will listen (even on social media) that I'm a deadbeat dad, etc. I've screenshot everything and sent it to my lawyer. This was all recently. Also, just in general running their mouths. I really want to start dropping some truth bombs on them. Soon. Maybe soon. The OM's now ex wife has volunteered to do it for me. Haha. Seems that she has more of a hatchet to bury than me...

And then there is the ex saying what she did about my Mom and her general attitude. And, while she didn't defend her family's actions, she damn sure didn't stop it, either. Her and her sister have something cooking involving the kids...especially when she comes back to the area. I was let in quietly on that one by the one family member of hers that is still on my side.