Hi everyone.
Her is a brief overview of my situation. Any advice is much appreciated.

Wife left 4 months ago and said 'I will be back when you get your crap together'.
(Her and a new found best friend left at the same time, and stayed together for 2 weeks at friends moms house.
I feel the friend convinced her to leave bc misery loves company.)
That meaning committing to spending more time with her and the kids, slack up on drinking on weekends, and getting rid of the stressors in my life(bad employees).
We own a business so life is stressful!
Well I immediately started MC alone, she refused to go(said she has wanted to go for years).
Few weeks go by with her being really bitter and resentful.
On week 4 she completely moves all hers and the kids stuff to her grandmothers house, files for divorce and bankruptcy. Grandmothers house is next to her parents, who have encouraged her to leave and provided her with all financial assistance.
Essentially enabling this type of behavior. Wife did go to marriage counselor 3 times, twice to berate me and once alone to tell counselor she was filing for d.
We have only had one face to face convo regarding our marriage during this 4 months and it was the divorce mainly. Now the stuff that has me confused.
She Always takes my calls and always answers my text.
When I do offer to do things to help with kids, wife says 'you never wanted to do that before'.
And that's basically her answer to most things.
With the exception of a 3 week span around xmas, she has been really cold and resentful.

When I do try to discuss our marriage with her, she says she doesn't want to keep re-hashing the past and can't have this stress in her life right now.
In person, her attitude is totally different, she is nice and almost timid, like she regrets her decision.
I feel she has limited face to face encounters for this reason. She states that she has to go thru with divorce to prove she is serious this time.
Really don't know what to do.
She basically up and walked away from everything.
Any chance of reconciling?
This woman is my world.
Please help

Me: 32 yo.
1st marriage
D:6
SS:10

Wife: 31 yo
2nd marriage
D:6
S:10

We were together 9 yrs, married 6.5.

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