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[Moose42]

Hi Sandi. Thanks for the reply.
We met in 96 married in 99. Her second marriage, my first.
All 3 kids are hers biologically. I adopted them in mid 2000's.
Marriage was pretty good up until then. Got out every other weekend or so. Bowling leagues,concerts,dinner. We started having trouble with D19 the year before she passed. Caused some tension between us.
After that we got ourselves into financial trouble. walked away from a mortgage after the housing mkt crashed.
We started to file for bankruptcy in 2011 but never carried through. We have been in major debt since then. My way of dealing with it all was to bury my feelings with liquor.W did the same for about 5 years then started "shutting down".
It seems for the last 3 years or so that all she did was read and play games. Looking back now that would have been a great time to sit and talk with her and try to figure things out. Hindsight. Thanks again everyone. Peace.