The terms of divorce she put into the petition were really half-baked and very unspecific. It's consistent with her inability to really think complex issues/scenarios through. She just has to plunge right into it. The parenting plan assumed we were going to be highly interactive, and simultaneously assumed we would just work out holidays and vacations on the fly...The ownership of our house is a little complex, for reasons I don't want to get into here. I will say that odds are fair to good that in the long run it will likely have to be sold.
So you have 30 days to respond. In those 30 days you'll give her your counter, which will be based more in reality, better thought-through, and likely scary or provoking to your W. This may wake her up. In her foggy dream state she thinks you'll just take her petition and agree to it. She'll land on her feet some magical way and life will be good. When reality starts creeping in, as with your response, perhaps the tension will awaken her. Or it may make her spew. Who knows. But as 11th hour as it seems (especially with the house -- you won't be selling it immediately even after agreeing to the D), you have some time. Keep being steady, smart, calm, and brave. Not giving you false hope, but you may see some movement in your wife during this time.
And on the other hand, don't be afraid of not finding love again. That's where your DB efforts will pay off. Someone in her right mind will notice, if it doesn't work out with your W.
