If I were faced w/this, I would wait and notify my xh after I had seen and spoken to my daughter. You would then have more info to go on and could describe her situation much better. I would also ask if she had any objection to you contacting her father and discussing the matter w/him. If she objects, then respect her wishes for now.
The reason that I am saying to wait is because she may change her mind and not show up.
I'll be thinking of you and keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
