I wouldn't bring it up with her. I think you handled it brilliantly and broke the ice. I'd leave it alone.

I don't buy into your wife's R paradigm. No real suggestions on that, since she has rejected marriage counseling, which is my first suggestion. Hopefully someone else has an idea.


Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16