Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 8

[PsySara]

ForGump, Thank you!

J5K,
WH has shown significant turnaround in the last few weeks, to the point I think I am dreaming, it's like my fantasy is coming true.

Skyhigh,
We actually already did the hysterical bonding back in June when he initially asked to start piecing. We couldn't get enough of each other. We've been hot and cold since, sometimes crazy sex and then after we fight we go weeks without. Right now we're back to acting like teenagers. Now every time we have sex I know we are boding because his LL is physical touch.

So update about the weekend:
Friday night we closed on the house. It was a huge relief to have that done, we both want to have some updates done before we move in. So we're hiring someone to do all this with the plan to move by the end of February. After the closing we went over to some friends and had a bar-b-que. We all had a fantastic time and the kids crashed and burned when we got home. I went to be shortly afterward and WH came to bed around 11:30 and cuddled up to me.

On Saturday we celebrated DS1 birthday and let him destroy a small baby size cake. (tradition in my family) WH took some fantastic pictures and later thanked me for arranging the party. I had already arranged childcare for the night and afterward took WH to speed go-cart racing. I am not sure who had a better time, me or him. I was literally screeching with glee as I turned the corners. Afterward we went to Dave-N-Busters and played video games. Even though it was getting late we were in no hurry as the kids were staying the night at my mother's home. So we had a steak dinner before heading home. We ML and then slept like the dead.

Sunday morning I brushed my teeth, my hair and put my contacts in...sashayed up to the bed wearing only my birthday suit and we ML again. Afterward I made us Chai tea and we had a light breakfast. We went to the outlet mall and WH basically bought me an entire wardrobe as I will be removing my hijab in a few days. I will be able to wear more casual clothing (short/quarter sleeves)as well as some jewelry. I had a ridiculously good time and was glowing. By lunch WH and and I were joking and cuddling like crazy. We started to talk about my old wedding ring set. It was chosen by his sister (WH's uncle owned a jewelry store) and we both agreed we didn't like it. I haven't worn my rings since WH broke NC with OW in Jan '16, they've been sitting in my vans ashtray. WH asked what I like and I told him I really loved the eternity ring at Blue Nile. We looked at different rings and he said he wanted to get me one. So we'll have to get me sized (can't remember my ring size) and then we'll get a set for both of us.

WH constantly thanks me now for all my actions. He has started saying ILY and wants me near him. I am open and easy with my physical affection which is a 180 for me. I now give love and affection without "keeping score." He gets my affection whether he helps me out around the house or not. This has made him be VERY proactive with helping me out, he now does all the bath routines with the little ones and has started getting up with the baby at night. We may disagree but I don't find us arguing, mostly because I refuse to engage. If he wants to be right (and it's not something endangering the kids or us) then I will just let him be right. In the end it comes down to wanting to be right or wanting to be happy. I am actually a LOT more happy now that I let but all the important things go. In the meantime I continue to work no myself, I still have a LONG way to go towards being the kind of person I want to be. I am treating this like a new marriage, starting from scratch. I took a lot for granted when WH I first married, that won't happen again. Though it's very different this time and I will never have the innocence I had before he cheated, I think I am a better and stranger person after getting through this.