I agree with Job. (Always a safe bet.) Do more of what works and less of what doesn't.

If it works for your sitch, that's more significant than anything we say.

Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16