Can she really not just hand it to you to affect service?
We had a great night out at a restaurant with two other families. Good food, beer, lots of laughter, kids having fun.
Then before going to bed, she came to me and said, You're right, I can just give you the [divorce] papers. So I think I'm just going to give them to you.
I nodded but said nothing.
It's like my DB coach reminded me. When they get too close, they have to pull further away because they see getting too close as contrary to their goal.