Hi FG,
Just catching up on your situation. I may be mind reading here but her approaching after some good family memories were made to bring up divorce looks like she is trying to convince herself. In other words, she is ambivalent and not dead set. I used to struggle when WH brought up divorce and ILYBIANILWY mantra but realized his worst behavior was when he was in deep inner conflict.

Now when he pulls back I see him struggling, this is good, apathy is the enemy, not anger. Right now we are on an "up" slide but I know not to trust it until it's been happening for some time. Keep making yourself healthy and amazing.

M 10yrs T 13yrs
BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW
BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off
Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce
April '17-Letting go
2018 D busted
DD8, DS6, DS3