So I have confused myself, so are you saying that instead of saying nothing, that I should tell that she knows what is wrong?
No, I am saying that she knows perfectly well what is wrong. Do not mistake it as her concern for your feelings. When she asks you what's the matter or what's wrong with you......you need to see it as WW entrapment.
The WW will seldom show signs of a guilty conscious (and hardly ever the actions the LBH'S seem to think is her guilt speaking). However, you can bank on it.......this is her wanting to fight b/c she knows she is guilty of inappropriate conduct. If she has a fight with you, then she feels better afterward and can self-justify why she needs OM in her life.
You cannot "talk" your way out of the mess she has created. Any respone you give to anything she says similar to this, should either be a silent "knowing" stare (that tells her you are not falling for her tricks) and then turn your back to her or walk away. If you use any words, make them them very few.
It kind of depends on the persona you want her to see. As long as she has this OM in her head, you should not show emotional weakness/breakdown. That is why I tell LBH'S to do their crying away from the WW, b/c in her mindset she sees it as weakness in him. It is tied to her feelings of disrespect.
If I understand correctly, you told her you were talking to her brothers, which is true. Then you told her you were going to bed early b/c you had to get up early the next morning. Maybe this satisfied her and did not prompt her into more discussion. Whle you are learnig more about WW's, this was probably the best way.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
