just received the Divorce Remedy book today and read so far into chapter 2.
really good book and gives good insight to a lot of things so far.
i wish i read a book like that or this one way before.
i'd say anyone married should just read this type of book to comprehend the hardships that lie ahead and learn how to cope with them.
wife was packing last night very very demoralized saying how did things come to this. but she is sure about her decision of divorce. she is moving out in 2 days.killing me seeing this happen as well
she is a very attractive girl but we somehow we managed not to be compatible together in bed. i used to feel nothing physically down there . never had that type of issue before.
What do you mean? Why are you not compatible?
You are not sexually excited by her? Have you seen a doctor about this to rule out physical causes?
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
It isn't too late to see a doctor to rule out any underlying medical issues. I would suggest a complete physical, especially if you have not had one in a while.
I'm glad you are reading DR. Don't beat yourself up regarding past mistakes on how to handle things. It isn't too late to implement new strategies and changes. What else have you been doing to focus your efforts on improving yourself?
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This time around I want to have a plan in place to know how to best care for myself. Also, how to best maintain my serenity.
Care to share? I could use some serenity now, too.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
In your first post, you asked for advice. Here is my advice. If you are honest and serious about busting your divorce,
a) call your primary care doctor today, and ask to have your physical sexual health evaluated.
b) find yourself a good therapist/counselor. Discuss your sexual attraction to your STBXW. Develop some understanding about why you didn't find her sexually attractive.
There are a lot of other things you can do to DB, but I'd probably start with the above, since they sex was the core issue to your marriage breaking down.
Not only that, if you want to be with any woman ... you'll likely need to be in good sexual health -- physically and psychologically.
What do you think?
Good luck....
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
In your first post, you asked for advice. Here is my advice. If you are honest and serious about busting your divorce,
a) call your primary care doctor today, and ask to have your physical sexual health evaluated.
b) find yourself a good therapist/counselor. Discuss your sexual attraction to your STBXW. Develop some understanding about why you didn't find her sexually attractive.
There are a lot of other things you can do to DB, but I'd probably start with the above, since they sex was the core issue to your marriage breaking down.
Not only that, if you want to be with any woman ... you'll likely need to be in good sexual health -- physically and psychologically.
This time around I want to have a plan in place to know how to best care for myself. Also, how to best maintain my serenity.
Care to share? I could use some serenity now, too.
In my last experience I don't think I had serenity. I think I gained it slowly through the experience with my GALs. Which, don't get me wrong, were great, but I need to have serenity throughout this experience not further down the rode.
I'll go into more detail on my thread. So as not to hog up Toi's.
How are you Toi?
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
