No C yet Not trying to mind read or analyze, my intent is to share something on this forum for input. I do my best to share the facts I know and then interpret the rest. My W has answered a lot of questions... but also seems to not fully know what happened. Or why. Simply detached or not close to me and that I would not find out and she wanted to do it on those five days, and then felt bad hoping I would never find out... I asked her what she got out of it... and she does not know. What was missing in our M and she said nothing... that is what she said....
On the concrete actions, we are using ideas from the goasksuzie website... we went on a picnic date today for example. And we are not taking about A everyday...
My analysis is that she is just hoping I will get past it.... When I told her that I knew for three months... and I kept it to myself because I did not have the facts and I knew she would lie and deny... That is why I worked out so much this summer. I am in great shape now which she can see and she knows I was working out like crazy.... She feels terrible and cannot believe I kept that in... she feels bad I had to carry that. But she admits she would have lied. So I let her go back to her home town to find out what she needed to find out.... This is before I found this forum. And then I got the data and facts I needed to confront her, which I did. She was not in love with this guy or anything. I think she just did it like she was single again and did what she wanted... (my analysis) But she said to me that she was never going to see him again and was ending it.(it is a plane flight)
All comments welcome and helpful to me.
Hello Steady9,
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