Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #7]

[JRuss]

FG -- I think it actually sounds like you're in a decent place, all things considered, mentally/emotionally speaking.

Can she really not just hand it to you to affect service? Seems like silly mindgames, but maybe it has to be that way or the sheriff, in which case mail is certainly better.

In my own sitch, we worked back and forth most of this week to put down on paper how we'll do custody (50/50, 2-2-5-5, initially) and hack up our assets. As is so often the case, preparing mentally in advance, and knowing and bracing for what I know will be really hard and painful, only goes so far. You only do this once with the woman you still (how?) love, and reality is reality, and it really hits harder than you can prepare for. We finalized things last night and will meet with a lawyer Tuesday and turn her loose to put it all on paper the way it needs to be turned into the court. I guess I'll be served, too, not sure how that works. So, absent the epiphany for my W that would have come long ago if it was ever coming, we'll be divorced sometime in May, and she'll move out. Cest la vie. I've gotten to where I sometimes let myself view that move-out as at least something to let the pressure off a little, even though I know I'll be laid low.

GALing continues. I think all of us will have better 2017s than 2016s, and better 2018s still.