I m sorry for all your are going through, I've been there.
I'll keep this short and sweet. I did not meet my ex's affair partner for years, until after they were married. I was worried I would go nuts on her. The first time I met her was me handing my 3 and half year old daughter to her, because my e had surgery and couldn't come down the stairs. I was as nice as pie. Time went on and I had to see her for my daughter's big events.
To this day, I am cordial to her. What am I going to do? I actually got tricked into having dinner with them tonight. It's not really what I want to do with my Friday night, but I am doing it for D9.
I could only imagine that my ex must have painted me pretty poorly for her to be ok with having an affair with a married man with a baby on the way. I can tell, she is affected by the fact that I am not what he made me out to be and I am a great woman and mother. I live with that satisfaction, and she has to live with a cheater.
Hang in there. I've gone through it all, it's been almost 9 years and I went from a mess who was a scared brand new mom who's husband left her for another woman to being a strong independent, not bitter, and happy and healthy woman. Do your self a favor and stop inflicting your own pain by snooping. That's slowing down the healing process:)
