In your very first thread, you said your W said she loved the OM and that she loved you. Has she said she no longer loves the OM? Does she still say she loves you?
She has not said she no longer loves him. She still tells him she loves him from what I have seen on her Skype.
She still says she loves me, although the last time was Sunday night. She has been more removed this week, mirroring my withdrawal. I actually wonder if she's doing it to see if she can pull me close by doing it. She said after the internet argument that she would choose me, as she believed OM would make her choose soon.
Make of that what you will. Hey, I would completely expect her to tell OM she would choose him if he asked the question - it's quite difficult to break the status quo - unless she gets on a plane or he gets on a plane, or one of us pushes for a separation. I don't want to push that, I don't think it would necessarily help. Yes, it may snap her out of it, but then again it may not. I will only push for a sep when I get to the point of not being able to live in the same house any more.
Anyway, her grandma died today, so I will go and see how she is doing. That's both grandparents on her father's side in just over a month. She's feeling pretty sad about it from what I can tell, although we've only exchanged a couple of texts. I want to be supportive without giving the wrong signals
-- Me: 47 WW: 35 SS: 17 D: 5 T: 7 yrs Engaged: 2 yrs OEA confirmed: August 17 2016 ongoing since April 2016. OEA continues (with occasional breaks) BD2 - W says will visit OM in Jan 18
