In my opinion, I would rather spend my energy making sure that my partner doesnt have any desire or reason to cheat than restrict what they do to ensure that they wont have a opportunity to cheat.
Originally Posted By: Vapo
Your last paragraph implies that all of us that were cheated upon somehow caused it with insufficient effort to persuade our spouses to remain faithful...
Maybe I didnt say that right. That other person will do whatever they will do; I understand that. And of course, there is no doubt that I could get burned again; any of us here could. But Im not going to stop my future spouse from living their life due to my fears and insecurities. I have my boundaries and I will stick to them. But Im going to focus my energy into filling their love bucket rather than doing everything I can to make sure nobody else has a chance.
Anyway, I guess, back to Chris. At this time, I dont think its wise to probe too much into this trip. It may be with girlfriends. It may not be. In my mind, shes already fired you and you already know about OMs, so it doesnt make much difference. The question becomes what are your boundaries - what are your reactions.
