Yep, I'm here on the board, but not because of infidelity.
I beg to differ. There are all sorts of infidelity, not only of a sexual nature.
And what you are referring to would possibly apply in a "normal" marriage situation and not a situation where one spouse is dangling a divorce as a threat. I have seen these 30-40 something chick trips get very rowdy all too often. And all sorts of bus boys, lifeguards and receptionists are more than happy to oblige. She is def. going through the issues and she should stay away from all sorts of temptations. Alcohol reduces inhibitions and then some compliments are thrown and bob's your uncle...
I think you two are saying the same thing. In an ideal relationship, I think it's perfectly reasonable to go on trips separately on occasion. My ex would go out of town with a friend or a group of friends of the same sex and I wouldnt bat an eye. I go on business trips fairly often, and have several times gone with a colleague of the opposite sex and never felt like I was in any danger of infidelity. Now, Im not talking about going for a week at a Mexican resort with a group of mixed gender - I certainly agree THAT is a recipe for disaster.
In my opinion, I would rather spend my energy making sure that my partner doesnt have any desire or reason to cheat than restrict what they do to ensure that they wont have a opportunity to cheat.
