Needing some Guidance

[KCRoo]

I have been working on GAL, I go out with my friends on the weekends, for two weeks now i have gone to church by myself, I got my bike, and will start riding it as soon as the roads start to clear up.

In front of her i have a very good PMA, I don't let her see me down. I don't mope or pout, and generally act happy.

We are living together, I have tried to get her to leave but she doesn't respect me enough to go. I have thought about leaving myself, for more than the two days I already did, my counselor has discouraged it for the moment. We are going to talk more about it next Tuesday.


I am having a hard time with my goals, so maybe you all can help. I think I have too broad of goals, like MWD says not to have.

My first goal was to have her stop placing her phone upside down at night, like she is hiding the screen...However, I wasn't sure how to accomplish that, and actually she has stopped doing that (since Monday), and now keeps her phone right side up...so i guess that is a small improvement.

Otherwise I am stuck in those big picture goals that MWD says you won't see any progress on them, you know end the ea, have full transparency, get emotionally closer.

I guess to narrow them down, into measurable goals, I would say my goals would be (and I would appreciate feedback:

Goals from her:
She doesn't take phone calls outside.
She offers me to look through her texts.
She unfriends the guy on Facebook.
She doesn't go out drinking every weekend (she told me two weeks ago that she was going to stop for a long time, but then yesterday she told me that she was going out tomorrow, so i guess a long time is two weeks to her).
We begin to have emotional intimacy.
She begins to place me over her friends.
When she talks to me, to not check her texts or emails, while she is talking.

Goals for me:
A goal for me is to stop looking at her Facebook, and what she does (I have done this for two days now).
I get in the best shape I have ever been in which i am working on (she did make a comment that my close were getting too big)
I get my emotions under control.

I guess I have a hard time because i am not really sure what i want...I will think on this more today, and maybe come up with some better goals.