Great post! Thanks for coming back to give some us some hope.
My H doesn't have an OW so it's harder to lay down boundaries. I think it's just sad though that they have to put us through all this just to realise that they really do love and want to be with us. I've not been at this for a very long. It will be a year in May since we separated but BD was in December 2015. I realise this is going to be a long haul.... :0(
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')