2017 - New year - same MLC but I'm moving along

[Irish M]

Hope everyone is good.
my updates are getting further and further apart.. which is good.

XW birthday yesterday. The d's chose not to send her any messages since XW missed 2 of their birthdays already. I did ask them if they wanted to reach out. I got the you got to be kidding me look.

XW did message me though today.

she says : Hi, feels great to be 40. Love my life , love how i live now with the freedom. With my boyfiend, my friends. its great.

She continues : I also realize that i could never meet your expectations. you didn't love me. Our marriage was fake. Why would you love me. You said you loved me everyday but i didn't feel it. so I left.

she goes on: I dress how I want to ( her dad last told me she is now dressing like a hooker on a low budget), I workout 4 - 5 times a week (last i heard , she put on 30lbs and is a chain smoker)

She also said she is into photography now. Funny with me she never touched any of my cameras.I have 4 to play with. I was the photographer and still am. She would get annoyed that I needed to take so long for my pics. lol.

not sure why she needed to tell me how happy she was. I guess she has to believe her own fake life. It's sad.

No mention of the daughters, no concern about D14 ( still waiting for update from the hospital)

I replied a simple ."Good for you. happy birthday. Happy life without kids and responsibilities"

I thought about her message all day. somehow as the day went on it got under my skin. Did I really need that message. I'm working and messages from her only seem to come at the worst time and bring me down.

So I broke my rule in writing to her. I wrote her an email from my email I use for junk.

me: Going forward please use this email address for any correspondence with me. Your rants are not welcome on my phone via text and during my time of work. (I then blocked all possible contact from her through my phone and work email, limiting that one email address at home)

I also said: I will not listen to your crap about our past relationship. no point in discussing it we have different views and memories.

I will only email you concerning new health issues for the girls. D14 you know about already you can inquire about her when you want.

I will send you travel forms 2 weeks before any travel abroad. Please have it filled out within 7 days or I will have to send it to the lawyers and you can cover their fees.


I ended it on that. boundaries I needed to put into place for my own sanity.

and crickets from her as a response..

next important date is mothers day. Please pray for me.

Irish