Ok, say he was ordered by the court to pay you a one lump sum as his punishment. Or if by law he was forced to come home. O Or he was imprisoned for 3 years?
Would this make anything better? Would you let go of the anger then?
What is it that the law should assure the child would have with two parents?
OK, if we had 2 incomes, we would probably own a house. How does the law assure I have a house? And my ex has a house because se lives there too? My parents were married until I was 17, but we only rented a small 2 bedroom apartment.
I know you are as angry as can be. I also think you have a right to be. But it is taking you over. To the point you need to have him punished SOMEHOW. But I don't know that would even make you feel better until you decide to feel feel better.
And FWIW, there will be consequences. They may not be the way you expect them to be, but he will have them. He has to live with hiself.
No your right. My ex is not doing anything illegal. He is doing the basics. And none of those punishments would make me feel better....except for a giant lump sum. My friend asked me what it would take for me to not be angry anymore. I told her, if I was living comfortably on my own then I would be happy and let things go. That is not a very spiritual response and might not even be true. Or perhaps it would only be true because I would appreciate it having not had that. Perhaps if I had always had that lifestyle, I would still be unhappy because I felt lacking. Like I would need to be in a homeless shelter to appreciate the situation I am in. But i think the issue is that I am really unhappy with my life right now and i do not see a realistic way out financially.
Now I know there are plenty of people that have it worse. Me and my son are in no danger of starving or being without healthcare or shelter. Logically, I know it really is a matter of appreciating what I do have and trying to just work with the cards I have been dealt.
