Are you confusing detachment and going dark? They are separate things.
yes I believe this is the problem. I am using the language here improperly.
detachment is probably what I should be saying. my DB coach advised me to go out on my own and forget about her state for now. He also advised me to "create some mystery" about myself. So that it what I have been doing. It does feel a bit gamey but it's not like I know what else to do. I am not "dark" in the sense that it is meant here I think. W and I still talk and sleep in same bed and take care of kids together.
