It sounds like you are ahead of me on this learning curve. I have a very thick skull and it's taken me way too long to start waking up to some of these issues...but I guess better late than never, right? What does "goblin king" mean?
Have you ever seen the movie "Labyrinth". It's kind of a kids movie but it has some adult themes in it. W and I have always liked it.
David Bowie played a character called the goblin king. If you haven't seen the movie then my best summary would be that Bowie is trying to get the protagonist girl to agree to give up her baby brother to him willingly. give up more-or-less. she keeps running his maze and doesn't give up. The final scene bowie is frustrated with the girl's tenacity and says something along the lines of "just let me rule you and I will be your slave"
She refuses and her reply is that she ran all his challenges and whatnot and that "you have no power over me" that breaks the spell and she gets her brother back.
so W feels like I serve her but want to rule her on an emotional level I figure. That is where my self improvement work as been for months now. I only validate feelings and offer support. I am open to the idea that I have other issues but if I do then she is not telling and I haven't figured them out.
