I'd go even further and say don't even do that. What is the symbolism behind VD? Love and relationship, right? Now, if she is in love with someone else, even if "imaginary" (I still say where there is smoke...), then why on earth set yourself up for heartache? She'd see it as pursuing and nothing else.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
