do yourself a favor and don't get sucked into that. You're setting yourself up for heartache. If you could do a quiet dinner or a small day trip just to spend time together, I could see that because it has benefits. But a gift, specifically lingerie that may not be for you (sorry, don't mean to be cruel) is too much to ask for right now.
M:41 H:43 T:26yrs M:19 yrs S:15 D1:14 D2:9 Living together but separated