My WW and the Great Sandi2 Experiment - part 2

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Chris,

In this forum I often give the benefit of the doubt to the spouse claims that he/she is going out/away with friends. In your case, you're certain she's had an affair with OM1 and OM2 in the past, so I feel less of an instinct to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I do wonder really if this particular trip is innocent.

That's neither here nor there.

I think you do have to decide what your boundaries are. You shouldn't go snooping, but if you become aware that she is continuing with an EA and/or a PA, does that cross a boundary? If so, what will you do to protect your integrity and sanity?

I believe, for myself, that if I became aware of a PA, I would go file the next day. But that's a very personal choice. I know that people do reconcile after affairs.