My heart goes out to you and your sitch. To bad that you are back under these circumstances. You seem to be in a much better spot now then you were before but I have not read your old threads yet.
I am glad to see you are still in al anon and you have a great support group there. I know for me the people in AA have been a big help to me.
One thing I have learned is you can only help those who want to be helped. It is very hard to sit by and watch someone not want to get help. I know exactly how my W felt now.
Love is a decision. Genuine love is honor put into action, regardless of the cost.
Me:43 W:41 M:21 SS:25 S:19 D:18 BD1:3/16 BD2:10/16 W moves out 10/2/16