Chris, the more I read your posts, the more I feel like we are at the same stage in this stupid game. I feel your pain.
Just when you think you're getting yourself under control and in a better place, here comes a swift kick to the stomach.
I think you know you set yourself back when you asked her who she was going with. That's ok. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and begin again.
As crappy as it is, we need to learn to let them go. Not because we want them to, but because they need us to. I'm trying hard to talk myself into this. This is what he thinks he needs so let him go. If he comes back.... well you know the saying. Everything I read here and other sites say this is the best course of action and what could provide the best results. I'm still doubtful but at this point, what's the worst that can happen? I'm going to get divorced? Lol that card is already on the table.
Deep breaths for tonight and start over again tomorrow.
M:41 H:43 T:26yrs M:19 yrs S:15 D1:14 D2:9 Living together but separated