Gordie: Pulling it all together

[ForGump]

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So many things you wrote resonated w/ my situation....

For some spouses, they actually have to go through with the S or D before they realize they have made a mistake.

Does your W have a history of making impulsive, or emotion-based choices? Has she had difficulty exploring complex situations and their outcomes in her mind, or does she need to jump into things to understand?

Coach: You need to be less confident and certain. W complains that you think you are smarter than W and you talk down to W.

Good advice for me, too. I need to let her win her arguments, let her know I respect her opinions.

Coach: Yes. POM is going to make some stupid mistakes

Or... she'll realize he has zero interest in her and she only fantasized it?

Have you learned any more about the POM that makes you think he is indeed more than a delusion?

Coach: Your W is in MLC, she is seeking excitement, and she finds you boring. You need to figure out how to surprise her, how to make her laugh, how to make her think she doesn't really know you, that you can be spontaneous and not utterly predictable

I need to dwell on this.